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ometimes truth hurts, but it is just what we need.
by George Hillman, Assistant Professor of Spiritual Formation and Leadership, Dallas Theological Seminary
Do you remember the Hans Christian Andersen fairytale, “The Emperor’s New Clothes”? It’s about an emperor who loved his royal clothing. One day he heard about two tailors who could make the finest clothes from the most beautiful cloth in the world. These tailors, who were really swindlers, said their cloth had the special characteristic of being invisible to anyone who was either stupid or not fit for his or her position.
Well, not to appear either dim-witted or unfit to be a ruler, the emperor did not say anything when he tried on his new wardrobe of nothing. The townspeople were too scared or embarrassed to say anything either. Instead of speaking truth, they lavished lies about how beautiful the emperor’s new clothing of nothing was. Only in the end did a child point out the obvious truth that the emperor had nothing on.
|  | In the end, did the emperor benefit from the people not speaking truth to him? Of course not. The same is true for us. Constructive feedback is essential to development. While praise is nice and can bring satisfaction, constructive feedback is what helps us know where we need to change.
Loving truth now-—balanced life later
I would much rather have someone speak loving truth to me now than, for example, to get fired from my first job after graduation for something that everybody knew about me but were too afraid to say—-just because I was too sensitive.
Good mentors love courageously, speaking truth into the life of another. They have the special ability to look into our lives and ministries and see where the gaps are and where God is at work. Through a trusting relationship, a mentor empowers me to correct imbalances in a safe but challenging environment. Knowing that change does not occur overnight, this takes patience, from both mentor and student.
Encouragement is a strong mark of biblical community. Consider the following verses:
So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing. (1 Thessalonians 5:11, NLT)
Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near. (Hebrews 10:24-25, NLT)
However, true love is also courageous. Courageous love is the mentor’s initiative, in response to the Holy Spirit’s leading. It’s worth risking personal rejection to address what is holding another person back from experiencing God’s unconditional love. Courageous love involves an intimate and often confrontational service to others that leads them into closeness with God—what they might never experience any other way.
|  | This kind of love recognizes the flawed foundations of people’s character and the supernatural nature of the task. It takes the initiative, in the Spirit’s power, to enter the messes in people’s lives so they can experience deliverance from sin and participate in God’s purposes for them. Courageous love is central to the identity of the servant leader.
So let someone enter your messiness—and don’t be afraid to hear the truth. Like the emperor, you may save yourself from some embarrassment and failure while enjoying the freedom of God’s truths for your ministry and life. |
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|  | n interview with author, speaker, and pastor Brian McLaren on how to manage church change
Doing things a new way is rarely easy. Rather than being welcomed with hurrahs, innovation is repeatedly pooh-poohed with a “We’ve never done it that way before” attitude. But the fact is, times are changing, and the church is following suit. In part two of our interview with Brian McLaren, author of the landmark book The Church on the Other Side and pastor of Cedar Ridge Community Church, McLaren talks about fresh thinking and how to prepare for transformational ministry—especially when you face resistance.
You talk about the necessity of fresh, innovative, and bold thinking to navigate ministry during transitional times. What would you say to a seminarian who is trying to do this but is not making the grade?
BMcL: If you're asking me about seminarians who think boldly and innovatively, but their conservative or regressive seminaries punish them for doing so, I would say a couple of things. First, I think they should transfer if they can! There are other settings that would nurture them.
Second, if they can't transfer, I would try to find the most open and innovative professors and spend as much time as they can with them.
Third, I would be sure to connect with people outside the seminary who will encourage innovative and creative thinking—groups like emergentvillage.com, the Allelon network, or (for Latino leaders) El Red del Camino.
When seminarians enter ministry, how do they transform their churches?
I don't think this is a fair assignment for new pastors. Even "mature" pastors in their forties, fifties, and sixties find that church transformation can be brutal. If a new pastor is in a church that doesn't want to change, I think they shouldn't do anything abrupt.
Instead, they should faithfully serve, learn to preach, and learn to care for people who are in the midst of marital crisis, the death of a loved one, mental illness, or family stress. They should seek to be an example of a Christian, which is what Paul told Timothy in reference to managing his own young age.
Then, in their next assignments, whether it's pastoring an existing church or planting a new one, they will have learned a lot and left a blessing in their first assignment.
What if they’re in a church that actually wants change?
It's still hard. But the first thing I'd suggest for a young leader is to find a good consultant! The money spent would be well worth it in saving them from making certain predictable mistakes. Those mistakes would be far more expensive in terms of money, pain, division, discouragement, and other negatives.
What else can leaders do to prepare for transformational ministry?
First, I'd encourage them to make use of books. This is why many of us authors write—so we can put out resources that will stimulate people to think. Then all of that pressure doesn't fall on the pastor. The author can take some of the heat for introducing new or uncomfortable challenges.
|  | | Second, I'd urge them to pay special attention to their own heart, their own relationship with God, and the state of their own soul. Leadership in times of transition can drain and damage the soul as few other things can. They must, as the proverb says, guard the heart well, "for from it flows the springs of life." |
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ooking for a person—not a program
by Aaron Ott, Dallas Theological Seminary
I often talk with fellow students who want a deeper educational experience than what the standard curriculum supplies. Certainly the course catalog represents a comprehensive smattering of what you need to know for ministry. But there is a longing for more. Often, a seminarian’s educational experience lacks something vital, something personal yet somehow intangible--a mentor.
Before seminary I worked at a large church on the janitorial staff. Preparing to move on toward ThM training at Dallas Theological Seminary (DTS) and knowing I needed some intern experience in ministry, I approached several pastors on staff. Their responses were all nearly identical: “We don’t have an intern program right now.” But I wasn’t looking for a program; I was looking for a person.
Get Aggressive
Not far from our home sat a very small church pastored by a DTS alumnus. He hadn’t spent much time mentoring people in ministry either, but he made himself available. In many respects, I was the aggressor, acknowledging that the demands on his time simply did not afford him the instinct to initiate and maintain our interaction.
He was, however, willing to pour his wisdom and experience into a young man who was eager to learn. I had the tenacity of Elisha who stayed glued to Elijah in 2 Kings 2.
|  | | Unfortunately, not all students have this opportunity. Professors often must reserve time and energy for those who are fervently seeking it. Realizing this, students need to get aggressive--becoming “the aggressive apprentice.” Like Elisha, I’m not content with passing moments of superficial influence. I intend to have a metaphorical “mantel” passed on to me that will significantly impact my character and ministry.
|  | But this rarely happens in the classroom. I have to go further. I’ll often have my professors in my home for dinner where they can experience my family’s hospitality, my wife’s company, and my children’s noise. During such times is when I’ve gleaned how they grew into ministry, nurtured their family relationships, stayed grounded in their personal spiritual life, and learned to trust God for provision and employment.
I listen intently to their stories and am blessed by the way they relate their struggles. Up close and personal is where their lives have most influenced me toward trusting Christ more as a minister in training. It’s not a program . . . it’s a person.
My experiences with ministry mentors have been so meaningful that I charge every seminary student to pursue their mentors, initiate the interaction, and aggressively welcome the transformation that can ensue. Like me, they’ll find the missing pieces of their education. |
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